I have struggled with self-worth issues for as long as I can remember, as far as pre-school – even though I have usually been pretty popular, smart, and performed well in school and in my career. In truth, I just want to be liked. In fact, I wanted to be popular even more than I wanted to be smart. To that end, I was willing to compromise who my friends were and how I needed to act, even when that meant playing small – just so long as I was liked. Many of us play small, either to fit in or to avoid making a mistake and experiencing failure. When you don’t know yourself, you will tend to play small. It wasn’t until I went inward and understood my worth, that I could shine my light and share my gifts.
I believe we all have unique gifts that we need to share with the world, and we are all meant to shine bright. However, as a result of societal pressures, or perhaps even our own self-judgments, we can easily get boxed into living within a very small range of feelings, emotions, actions and beliefs, when we could be exploring and enjoying so much more of ourselves. Why are we so afraid to shine bright?
It’s certainly normal to have a fear of failure, but we are often even more afraid of our own light and greatness. That doesn’t mean we all get to be a famous actress or athlete. Each of us has certain physical, mental and emotional limitations. Of course, your goals need to be attainable. Having said that, I believe we are all naturally wired to become the best version of ourselves, even though most of us somehow find a way to live much smaller lives.
What causes people to live small? Many of us are dissatisfied with important parts of our lives. We live in state of constantly wanting things we can’t seem to get. We have grand dreams that never get fulfilled. We pretend that we are on our way somewhere, when we are actually stalled. We fear our own magnitude, because it challenges our core beliefs that we are not worthy. Be the gentle witness of your ego and fear. Would you rather be a host to love and light or a hostage to the ego?
Shed your fear and choose to shine bright. The world wants to see your talents and needs your gifts. Once you are fully living and expressing your authentic self, you will be free to express a much wider range of qualities, emotions, and actions, instead of living small and feeling constrained in such a small life. You can then allow others to also shine bright.
We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. – Marianne Williamson
Weekly Mantra: I forgive myself for choosing fear. Today I choose to share my gifts with the world. As always, I would love to hear your thoughts – write me on my blog.